Throughout its motor, psychic development and the acquisition of a certain autonomy, the child goes through several crises of opposition. The "no" is at the top of his vocabulary list.
These periods are essential to the development of the child: it is constructed by opposing. Arm yourself with patience and imagination to pass this course.
Use negotiation: he does not want to put away his room right away? Negotiate to do it in 5 minutes. He refuses to put on his red sweater? Offer him blue.
The temptation to yield is great: tiredness, wanting to please him, lack of time, fear of the eyes of others ... Yet, it is by not giving in that you play your role of parent and assume responsibility. But be careful without brutality.
Punish or not?When the child exceeds the limits, a punishment can be beneficial, if one keeps in mind these few considerations.
> The sanction must have a meaning : nothing is used to punish to punish. It is important for the child to understand why he was punished; explain to him why his act is reprehensible.
> Moreover, the punishment must be immediate, so that the child understands the link of cause and effect: stupidity = punishment.
> The vocation of punishment is educational : no violent, humiliating punishment. To send the child to his room can be a good solution: he will calm down, think about his act, to finally feel lighter.
> Finally, use the punishment wisely : multiplying them can have the opposite effect expected. To avoid reprimands, the child risks lying about his actions.